The Hard Work of Generosity

Asking a lot of questions feels generous, but it’s often promiscuous. How is the recipient supposed to respond to all that feedback, which is sure to point in many directions at once?

If you’re going to put in the effort to give any feedback, it’s worth going the extra mile to do it with the generosity of focus.

If many questions spring to mind, prune by at least 50 percent.

If you’ve still got more than four, halve the number again.

Overwhelming someone because you can’t be bothered to focus is lazy-aggressive, not generous.